Are you wondering if you could be bisexual? Join the club! (Happy to have you friend!)
Over the last decade, the percentage of LGBT Americans has doubled according to a recent Gallup poll. Particularly, there’s been a considerable uptick in those identifying as bisexual.
In fact bisexuality is the most common identifier among LGBT individuals.
The younger generation is coming out at far younger ages than their millennial predecessors. Among Generation Z ages 18 to 25, 1 in 5 folks, or 21%, identify as LGBT.
If you're questioning your sexuality, you're not alone. And honestly, it couldn't come at a better time. While there are still heated debates among certain subsets of people, gay, lesbian, and bisexual identities are the most widely accepted now than they have ever been in U.S history. (But, there’s a lot of work to do on behalf of our transgender brothers and sisters.)
What does it mean to be bisexual?
The definition of bisexual is having the capacity to be attracted to more than one gender. It's a broad label that doesn't limit sexual attraction to a single gender.
This often means being attracted to multiple gender identities (men, women, and/or non-binary people and folks outside of the cis-gender spectrum) but you may perhaps have a preference.
While you may be attracted to more than one gender, you may be attracted to them in different ways and at different times.
You may not care about gender expression at all, and be more interested in the person, not the gender. (Also known as pansexual.) Or, you may specifically enjoy masculine women and masculine men and non-binary people. There's really no containing bisexual attraction.
Questioning your sexuality
Anyone who has questioned their sexuality has at one point Googled “Am I gay?” or “Am I bisexual?” hoping Google would spit out a logical answer to this complicated question.
It’s a difficult thing to figure out when the world has taught you for your entire life that there is only one way people connect sexually—which is between men and women. But that is a dim and heteronormative idea of human behavior. It’s not actually reality. We’re far more complicated.
Many of us are capable of being sexually and romantically attracted to all walks of life. To what degree, or the exact type of attraction we experience will determine our true sexual orientation.
And, to complicate matters, it can change over time!
Take The ‘Am I Bisexual Quiz’
Just as you are now, it’s always a good idea to explore the internet and media when questioning your sexual orientation. Seek information on sexuality and consume bisexual and queer media. Keep an open mind and above all, be honest with yourself.
If you want to know if you may be bisexual, take this ‘Am I Bisexual Quiz’.
It was created by a certified sexologist and sex educator. While it can’t give you a definitive answer but it may be able to validate you toward one side or the other.
Remember, an open and honest mind.
What to do next?
Regardless of the outcome of the 'am i bisexual quiz' know that only you can define your sexuality. Going about this is a process takes time, so be gentle and open with yourself.
If you suspect you may be bisexual, seek out LGBT media, movies, shows, and books. Find subreddits, and corners of YouTube and TikTok where you can explore this possibility with others who have also questioned their sexuality once upon a time. This day and age is incredible for finding powerful representation. Use technology and find the out, proud and visible bisexual folks to use as archetypes -- "This is one way to approach this. This is one way to do it."