Are you wondering how to give your wife a vibrator? Listen, you’re definitely not alone. You might have a bunch of questions about which one to buy, and how to approach this. We want to help clear everything up for you in this article.

Before you buy a vibrator for your wife or girlfriend, here’s what you should know. 

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Why should I buy a vibrator for my wife? Is it a good idea?

Vibrators are a wonderful thing to buy your significant other. Vibrators of all kinds make very short work of powerful orgasms. They are perfectly designed devices that can make your wife orgasm within seconds or minutes. Then, she might be ready for round two. There are no downsides to that. 

Making orgasms and sharing pleasure together easier could mean you’re in the bedroom every day making good use of that gift. 

When it comes to clit stimulation some ladies require prolonged periods of time to reach climax. With a clit vibrator or clit sucking vibrator, deep orgasms arrive lightning fast. (Or if you want to tease her, then you could introduce edging and building up her arousal with a vibrator.)

Have a conversation about this FIRST

Has your wife owned a vibrator before? Do you know if she’s ever tried one before? These are good questions to ask yourself before you buy your wife a vibrator. 

If this is totally new territory you've got to have a conversation. If this is new, she might need some gentle, curious nudging. (Or honestly, none at all – 50% of us ladies use and love vibrators.)

Communication is key. And this conversation will help you choose the perfect vibe.

Approach gently, and with open curiosity. 


If she’s interested in the idea, go deeper

Listen openly to how she responds to your proposal for exploration.  

Be genuinely open to listening to what she’d like to explore and what she doesn't.

She could mention things like double penetration, hands-free remote control power play, g-spot vibrators, or bondage. She might surprise the pants off you.

Just listen, take note, and don’t force the conversation in a specific direction. 


How to pick the right vibrator for your wife or girlfriend

Ok, so you’ve chatted about the possibility of adding a buzzy teammate to the bedroom and you know what she might be into.

Your wife or girlfriend might be interested in a specific type of stimulation. Here are some types of toys she might love. 

✨ For clit stimulation (the star of the show & a safe bet)

A vibrator for clit stimulation is a great option. It’s a crowd-pleaser for sure. 

Our best-seller Aura is a versatile powerhouse of a vibrator. It’s a clit sucker on one end and a vibrator on the other end. It can be used as a dual stimulator too (internally and externally). 

Clit suction is a newer type of stimulation that uses air pulsations to stimulate the entire clitoris. They are powerful and often produce orgasms quickly. 

Read more: How To Use a Clit Sucker

Try using a clit sucker on your wife prior to penetration. The arousal and boost of vaginal blood flow from this first lovely orgasm can make penetration feel even better. It’s a great primer for penetration. 

✨For those looking for a strong vibrator 

If your wife tends to need prolonged clit stimulation to climax you might opt for one of our strongest vibrators yet–pretty much guaranteed to put a smile on her face. Bewitch’d is a classic wand vibrator that is powerful and never disappoints. 

It has 3 intensities (all you’ll need with this one) and 10 pattern settings to explore. 

Wand vibrators are mainstays of the sex toy world for a reason. They. Are. Fantastic.

If your wife is super sensitive or new to vibrators we’d recommend something a bit gentler. 

Read more: How To Use A Wand Vibrator 


✨For those looking for gentle stimulation

For those new to vibrators, you might err on the side of gentle stimulation. Our compact clit sucker Kai is on the gentler side which is really great for foreplay, and arousal. This is great for someone who is new to clit suction or the world of vibes. 


✨For g-spot stimulation

Ah, the infamous g-spot. For a lot of ladies, there is an area about 2 inches into the vaginal canal that is said to produce a special type of orgasm. This spot, a cluster of nerves, is known as the g-spot. 

G-spot vibrators that are curved or angled upward are designed to stimulate this spot that sits on the upper vaginal wall. 

For some ladies this type of orgasm has been elusive, so exploring this new pleasure could be fun for a couple to do together. 


✨For remote-control power play

Picture this – your wife inserts a panty vibrator or a g-spot vibrator and you have total remote control of her pleasure. She's at your whim. This could be enjoyed as a power play since she rides out whatever vibration you choose on the remote control. 


Read more: Why Hands-Free Pleasure & Remote Control Vibrators Are Game Changers


When in doubt, buy a gift card for her and shop together

Buying your wife a vibrator could be tricky. If you think she’d rather pick it out herself but you want to facilitate – buy her a sex toy gift card for online purchase. 

Make a night of it and shop online for sex toys you both find exciting. This in and of itself can be pretty sexy. 

A gift card is a safe bet and allows you to approach this together. Some ladies will also prefer adding input to the purchase rather than being surprised.


Is using sex toys in a relationship healthy? 

Yes, without a doubt. Using sex toys in a relationship is healthy. 

And it’s pretty common. Around 42% of couples use sex toys together. 

A 2010 sex study reported that couples who use sex toys with their partners show higher rates of sexual satisfaction and healthier rates of open communication when compared to couples who don’t use vibrators together. 

More orgasms, more intimacy, better communication – I’m sold.

Read more: 5 Reasons To Start Using Sex Toys In Your Relationship 


Bottom line

If you’re Googling ‘how to buy my wife a vibrator’ then we fully love you. You're the best. You’re obviously interested in adding some excitement and pleasure to your shared bedroom. But we get that approaching this could be tricky, especially if you’re in a long-term relationship and have never tried this before. Consider the tips we’ve laid out and if you feel your wife would be open to it–just go for it. Vibrators are a pleasure to own and a pleasure to share with your partner.