Prostates serve an important role in the male reproductive system, but can also be a very important pleasure point – you may have even heard it be referred to as the male G-Spot or the P-Spot.
Unlocking prostate pleasure can take male pleasure to the next level and is often described as more pleasurable and intense than penile orgasms (the norm).
Are you ready to level up?
Here’s how to self-massage your prostate.
The Biological Role of the Prostate
The prostate is a small, walnut-shaped gland that surrounds the urethra (the tube that carries urine and semen out of the body). Prostates are only found in biological males (and potentially intersex folks), but not biological females.
The main function of the prostate is to create the fluid that nourishes and protects the sperm cells in semen, but it also plays a role in ejaculation, by contracting during orgasm to help push semen out of the urethra. Additionally, it has some role in urine flow regulation.
Prostate as Pleasure
Prostate stimulation can be an incredibly pleasurable experience for males. But, it is important to note that it is not for everyone and it is completely normal if someone doesn't enjoy it.
Prostate stimulation can be pleasurable for several reasons. The prostate is a gland that is located near the base of the penis and is responsible for producing a fluid that makes up a portion of semen. When the prostate is stimulated, it can lead to the release of this fluid, which can be a pleasurable sensation for some men. Additionally, the prostate is rich in nerve endings and can be a source of pleasure when stimulated.
Prostate stimulation can also lead to the release of endorphins, which are chemicals in the brain that produce feelings of pleasure and euphoria. Additionally, it can also lead to stronger and longer orgasms.
It's important to note that the prostate is a sensitive organ and it's important to be gentle and listen to your body when learning how to self-massage the prostate.
How to Self-Massage Your Prostate
Let's get into the play-by-play of self massaging the prostate.
#1 Prep for Prostate Play
You can follow similar protocol as anal play. Take some deep breaths, wash your hands, and you can wear latex gloves or finger cots as well. Also, urinate beforehand.
#2 Find Your Prostate
The easiest way to locate the prostate is by inserting a lubricated finger into the anus and feeling for a small, round bump about two inches inside the rectum on the top of the rectum (toward the belly button).
#3 How to Self-Massage Prostate
Have your favorite lube handy and start with gentle pressure before gradually increasing intensity. It is important to be patient and take your time to become comfortable with the sensation.
One technique is described by Lexx Brown-James, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. in their article with SELF: “Bring your pointer, middle, and ring fingers together, then push up into [the perineum]. Stimulating this area with gentle but firm strokes also stimulates the prostate.”
He continues to recommend “rubbing clockwise for 8–10 strokes, then going counterclockwise, stroking toward the scrotum or touching the penis while you massage [the] perineum.” You can also gently tap on the prostate, rub side to side, or up and down. Find out what you like best – the world is your oyster!
When using a prostate massager, keep the following recommendations in mind:
- Use plenty of lubricant that’s compatible with your toy
- Start small: Some anal training kits have plugs that also vibrate, and this is a great option to experiment with size.
- Weighted plugs provide a sensation of fullness that some people enjoy
The Challenges of Prostate Self-Massage
There are two big challenges to prostate self-massage. The first is that prostate stimulation can take a long time and the second is that it’s kind of a strange angle.
For these reasons, it can actually be safer to use a prostate massager for self-massage. If you are going to use your fingers, make sure to cut and file your nails and wash your hands well.
A prostate massager like Wake, The Remote Prostate Massager, maximizes safety, pleasure, and convenience. Its thoughtful design targets the prostate and delivers hands-free orgasms with 10 remote-controlled pulse patterns and a 360° rotating base. Remote capabilities allow you to stimulate other parts of your body and also take away the clumsiness of having to adjust your toy mid-use.
Using a remote control prostate massager makes exploring prostate pleasure far easier.