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Many might prefer intuition over instruction when it comes to the bedroom, but this isn’t always the best approach. If you're learning how to use a vibrator on your wife or girlfriend, this guide might be worth perusing and keeping in the back of your mind the next time you want to spice up your foreplay. 

Here's the thing, 70 percent to 90 percent of women are unable to achieve orgasm with penetration alone. If you want to give your wife an incredible orgasm, you need to pay special attention to the clitoris. Enter, the art of how to use a vibrator on your wife.

8 Essential Approaches to How to use Vibrator on Wife

There's no sure-fire method for ensuring orgasm, but there are strategies to increase the likelihood. These mostly involve common sense and a bit of effort. The great thing is that most of them are common sense and take minimal effort. The return on your investment will be beyond your wildest dreams.

#1 Communication Counts

There’s a saying that your most powerful sexual organ is not in your pants, it’s between your ears. Apply your brain to talking (and listening). It can be as simple as asking whether something feels good, or simply raising the issue of a vibrator. The key to explosive foreplay and orgasmic vibrator use is to communicate.

 

#2 Ease of Use

When you’re shopping for that special vibrator, make sure that it is easy to handle and has been ergonomically designed for ease of use. If you have an active sex life then chances are that you and your partner will be changing positions fairly often. 

Make sure that your chosen vibrator is flexible and gentle (silicon is a great choice) and that the controls are easy to reach and operate - explore the wonders of a remote control vibrator for even more excitement. Avoid cables and wires, and opt for rechargeable every time. 

 

#3 The Clit is Where It’s At

Start off slow. As you get more comfortable with the idea of sex toys in the bedroom then you can move from vibrators to sex toys like butt plugs, but to start off with choose a vibrator that has been designed for clitoral stimulation. The clitoris and foreplay are essential parts of the journey to Orgasm City.

 

#4 The Power Principle

It may be tempting to go for the most powerful vibrator on the market, but power without control is useless. If you’re a first-time buyer then an entry-level vibrator might be your best choice. That said, if you are in search of the ultimate expression of power and versatility there are choices like the ‘Magic Wand’ type vibrators/massagers. However, larger vibrators can be intimidating for your partner.

 

#5 Take it Slow

Going off in a new direction as far as bedroom antics are concerned can be a little scary, so if you’re introducing a vibrator to sex play then start off slow. A great idea is for you to ask your partner how she would like a vibrator used (there’s that communication again). Mutual masturbation is also a fabulous approach for first-timers. The thrill of getting a hand job while you use a vibrator (and plenty of lube!) should not be underestimated.

 

#6 Pleasure Positions

Getting the hang of using a vibrator on your partner’s clit can be tricky, but if you really want to light her fire then try out Doggy Style. It’s perfect for reaching and stimulating the clit - and penetration can provide shivers of delight. She can also help out by setting the rhythm as she rocks backwards and forwards. When in doubt, experiment.

 

#7 Get Slippery

If there is one golden rule for how to use a vibrator on your wife it’s to have plenty of high-quality lube close at hand. A great lube, with additives like aloe vera always makes things better. It’s also essential if the lady suffers from vaginal dryness, which is a common issue in menopausal or post-menopausal women. 

 

#8 Go Exploring

Although the clit should play an important part in foreplay and the main event, don’t ignore your partner’s other erogenous zones.  There are 6 (aside from the clit) that you should focus on as a start:

  • Ears and neckLightly lick, kiss, or nibble on your partner's earlobes and neck. Ask them what they enjoy most or prefer and plan your foreplay accordingly. 
  • Fingertips and palms: Put your partner's hand in yours, with the palm facing up, and slowly move your fingers over her palm. Take the time to tickle the inside of her hand with your finger. Look into her eyes while you touch her palms, it’s incredibly intimate. Suck on the fingertips lightly, one by one, and watch your partner wriggle in pleasure. 
  • Nipples: Stimulating the nipples sends signals to the genital sensory cortex. The same brain region is aroused due to clitoral or vaginal stimulation. Also, nipples have hundreds of nerve endings so touching, nibbling, sucking or stroking with a vibrator can be indescribably pleasurable (and can even bring on an orgasm.
  • Inner Thighs: The inner things are clitoris adjacent and light strokes and touch can indirectly stimulate the genitals. Run a vibrator on the gentlest setting up the inside of your partner's thighs and feel free to change settings according to your partner's preference. Move closer to the genital area with each stroke and alternate with some gentle kisses as you get closer to the sweet spot.

 

9 Tips For How to Use Vibrator On Your Wife

Once you start, it's not too hard to figure out. Let her body and responses guide you and you can't go wrong. 

But if you want a few tips so intuitive play feels easier when you're trying the real thing, here's some insight.

  1. Start slow, get her relaxed, comfortable and aroused. A build up makes for the best orgasms.
  2. Use the vibe on less sensitive areas at first like hands, arms, or stomach, to get used to the sensation.
  3. Don't go straight for gold, touch other areas other than the clitoris at first.
  4. Work your way closer to the area, and let her reactions guide you. If she's guiding you with her hands, or lifting her hips, time to go for gold dude. 
  5. Then, it's time to focus on the clit. Focus the vibrator on the clitoral area, but don’t apply too much pressure initially. Use a gentle, teasing approach, circling around it before direct contact.
  6. You can apply a rhythm with how you are applying the vibrator, or just let the vibe do the work. You may find she will grind against it. Try to move with her.
  7. Once she's obviously enjoying it, DON'T STOP, and DON'T switch it up. Ladies need that repetitive motion. 
  8. Try incorporating penetration either with your fingers, a dildo or yourself. This is great for warming her up to penetrative sex and it can really send her over the edge but don't stop clitoral stimulation.
  9. Keep communication open. Listen to her and her body. 

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The Best Vibes For Couples Play

Choosing the right sex toy can be a challenge. This is especially true for those who are ‘Boning Up’ (couldn’t resist) on how to use a vibrator on your wife. The sheer choice can be intimidating. However, starting off your journey towards Destination: Pleasure will be kickstarted by these vibrators and massagers.

  • The Wand Vibrator: Look for powerful, versatile models like the Bewitch’d.
  • The Classic Option: A petite, waterproof bullet vibrator like Happy is ideal for clitoral stimulation. It’s also tiny, and great for slipping into partnered play without being disruptive. 
  • The Clit Focused Option: Indie, a two-way massager, is great for both internal and external stimulation. 

Our Fave Vibe To Use During Sex: The Wand Vibrator

Wand vibrators have stood the test of time. First released by Hitachi in the '60s, the ‘Hitachi Magic Wand’ was marketed as a ‘muscle tension relaxer’ (nudge, nudge, wink, wink), but it soon found a niche as one of the most successful sex toys on the market. 

Bewitch’d - The Real Magic Wand: This is an incredibly powerful, cordless wand massager that has two goals. first, to set the standard as the best wand massager and second, to be recognized as the ultimate orgasm tool. Bewitch’d meets and exceeds these goals.

This is a brilliant vibrator for men, women and couples play.

 

Using Vibrators Together Is Wonderful Foreplay!

Foreplay is one of the most important parts of a mutually rewarding sex life for you and your partner, and a vibrator can play a role in promoting intimacy - and fueling incredible orgasms. 

It’s also important to remember that just because you’re learning how to use a vibrator on your wife or significant other there’s no reason for you to miss out on the fun. Let your partner use the vibrator for massage or to titillate your erogenous zones - it takes two to tango. 

 

So what are you waiting for? Find out what all the buzz is about, and leave her smiling from ear to ear. 

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