Sex toys for seniors is a hot topic lately. Whether you’ve been in the sex toy game for years, or you are just getting started, there are toys designed for all bodies, ages, and abilities – our toys can evolve with us as we age and our interests, needs, and bodies change.
Did you ever watch Netflix’s show, Grace and Frankie? I’m still trying to figure out if I’m more of a ‘Grace’ or a ‘Frankie,’ but this show perfectly illustrates how the designs of the products we use, especially vibrators, have to evolve with us.
In the show, the aging main characters struggle to self-pleasure primarily because of arthritis, etc. and the vibrator they design takes into account wrist and joint pain and toy weight.
Some of the most common frustrations among aging folks are joint pain and/or arthritis, limited mobility, vaginal/vulvar dryness or pain during sexual activity, and difficulty maintaining an erection or arousal.
If you are experiencing any of these, there are certain toys that you can use to make your pleasure experience as comfortable and satisfying as possible.
For those with arthritis, joint pain, & mobility challenges
About one-third of adults over the age of sixty-five live with arthritis and countless others live with daily aches and pains. The same amount of adults over the age of sixty-five, about a third of Americans, have some kind of disability (more than half of people over the age of seventy-five). This simply means that you are not alone in the slightest if your arthritis, joint pain, or mobility limitations/disability are affecting your sexual experiences.
If these challenges are ones that you are navigating, I recommend looking for toys with the following characteristics and qualities:
- Long and/or curved handles (these toys allow for ease of comfort when positioning or moving the toy)
- Lightweight (this means less work for your joints and hands)
- Wearable (wearable toys can be placed on/in the body and don’t require you to hold on during use, leaving your hands free)
- Remote control toys (these toys are controlled via an easily held remote control and limit the amount of reaching you have to do)
This wand is used externally on the clitoris, vulva, or anywhere else on the body. It is super strong, features a long handle, is cordless, has a long-lasting rechargeable battery, and is made with medical-grade silicone (the highest quality silicone on the market). As a bonus, it’s great for massaging sore muscles!
For those with vaginal dryness or pain during sexual activity
Vaginal dryness is one of the most frequent complaints of females who are aging and are menopausal or postmenopausal. In fact, a study reports that most females experience vaginal dryness and reduced natural lubrication during sexual activity which “can lead to painful sex, low libido, and decreased sexual satisfaction.”
What is there to do about dryness and subsequent pain or discomfort during sexual activity? There are two primary tactics:
First, you can increase the amount of ‘warming up’ that you do. Some people refer to this as ‘foreplay,’ but it’s not just a task to check off before penetration – doing non-penetrative sexual acts, particularly clitoral stimulation, will maximize arousal and promote natural lubrication.
Second, on the topic of lubrication, studies have proven that using lubricant “was associated with higher ratings of sexual pleasure and satisfaction for solo sex and penile-vaginal sex.”
Lubricant is everyone’s best friend, especially when using a toy.
The catch is that you have to make sure you are using the right type of lubricant when you are using a toy. If you have a toy made with or coated in silicone, you cannot use a lubricant that contains silicone or oils. When using silicone toys, use a water-based lubricant exclusively.
When paired together, toys and lube can do wonders to increase overall physical and mental arousal.
Try This: BerryLemon Kai Compact Clit Sucker
Clitoral stimulation is a great way to promote natural lubrication. Kai is used externally, which means no penetrative discomfort for you!
It has seven pulse patterns, a long-lasting rechargeable battery, and is made with medical-grade silicone and ABS plastic (two of the safest toy materials on the market). This clitoral toy will take you to paradise (and get you to a big O).
For those who experience erectile dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (defined by Harvard Health as the inability to maintain an erection at least a quarter of the time or the penis doesn’t get hard enough or it softens too quickly) affects about 18 million males above the age of twenty and its likelihood increases with age.
Some reports and articles offer the solution of prostate stimulation and/or massage as a way to address ED. This is done by stimulating the prostate anally.
Try This: BerryLemon Wake Remote Prostate Massager
This toy can be used as a prostate massager or anally by people who don’t have prostates. It features remote-control technology so that you don’t have to reach around to make any adjustments. It has ten vibration patterns, includes its matching remote, is rechargeable, and is made with medical-grade silicone and ABS plastic (two of the safest toy materials on the market).
All Sex Toys Are Sex Toys For Seniors
Our bodies change with time and so too should our approach to our pleasure. Exploring sex toys for seniors is a fun and exciting thing. But keep in mind, most sex toys are suited for seniors.
But if you are working to accommodate your body, there could be specific toys that could help you experience pleasure easier.