On the hunt for the best vibrator for older women? Let’s chat! 

I truly love recommending vibrators to older women. Because it's not just about sex and pleasure --it's about sexual wellbeing.

I was at a wedding recently and was chatting with a few women about vibrators. (Yes, I know, vibrator chat at a reception, my goodness.) I shared with some stunning older women that I'm the founder of a sexual wellness company. One woman replied, “Oh that’s amazing, but is it for older women like us?” and motioned to the rest of the table. I bit my tongue and responded in a reassuring way.

I spared them an overzealous lecture on how 1. pleasure is for EVERYONE and 2. a sexual wellness routine at their age would be nothing short revolutionary.

I wanted to ask —well, do you still desire pleasure? Do you still want to feel sexy in your body? Do you want to naturally increase libido, arousal, genital sensitivity and vaginal lubrication? Then, yes, it’s for you. 

We get to be sexual beings however long we get the great pleasure of living.

Sexual pleasure just might require extra effort as you get older. This is why a sexual wellness routine is so necessary.

Let's talk about the very best vibrators for older women and the benefits you may enjoy when you use one.

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Here's what you need to know about enjoying the finest vibrators for older women 

When you’re a little older, there are some things you should consider when buying a vibrator. 

#1 Always use a lubricant

It's a good idea for anyone to use a personal lubricant while getting frisky. But as we age, lubricants become more and more necessary. 

Sexual intercourse can become painful for many post-menopausal women. This is often due to a natural decrease in vaginal lubrication. Vaginal dryness can cause vaginal tissue to become less elastic, and prone to tearing or bleeding during sex.

So no matter if you’re using a vibrator on your own, or getting intimate with a partner, lubricant is a fantastic idea. 

#2 Opt for strong, well-designed vibrators 

There are vibrators and then there are viiiiiibrators. Not all vibes are created equal. The internal motor and battery will determine the type of vibrations you can enjoy. For older women, opt for stronger vibrators that offer a bit of oomph.  

A kitschy lipstick bullet vibe that requires a little AA battery is not going to bring you to your knees. But, a powerhouse, dual-motored clit sucker might. 

#3 Try clit suckers for maximum clit stimulation

Clit stimulation is everything ––81.6% of women can't orgasm from intercourse alone, they require clit stimulation. 

Vibrators are excellent clit stimulators. 

In recent years a new type of clit stimulator has emerged: the clit sucker. The name is a little intimidating but clit suckers don’t exactly ‘suck’. 

After the opening is nestled around the clit, these suction vibrators use sonic air pulsations to envelop the entire clit with a "flutter-type" vibration. Instead of direct clit tip stimulation, the air around the entire clit does the work. 

Clit suckers are now the gold standard of vibrators. 

Many women report deep, intense orgasms in just minutes while using a clit sucker.  

#4 Try flexible vibrators that help with dexterity 

Some vibrators are tiny. So tiny that holding them in the right place might be difficult for some folks. Try opting for vibrators that are either flexible or come with a long handle. This is especially helpful if your vibe sessions are lengthy.

While laying down, you could also work around this by shimming a pillow up toward your vulva and placing the vibrator between you and the pillow. 

Our 3-in-1 clit sucker has a clit sucker on one end and a flexible dildo on the other. When it's not being inserted for dual stimulation, the dildo end can be used as a long handle that can curve up and around your pelvis.

You could even go hands-free! 

#5 Forget about batteries, go for rechargeable 

Cordless vibrators used to all be powered by clunky, and expensive batteries. Now, lots of vibrators are powered by rechargeable lithium batteries. Just plug it in to recharge. 

Keeping your vibrator charged is also a great way to extend the life of your vibrator and keep it at maximum strength. 

Benefits of using a vibrator later in life

It’s no secret that sexual pleasure can be complicated by aging. Whether that be because of stress, hormonal shifts, health conditions, or medications —many, many women deal with it. 

It’s been found that regularly using vibrators can decrease symptoms of menopause. That's why I truly love recommending vibrators to older women –because vibrators may really make a difference in their sexual wellbeing.

Here are a few documented benefits of older women using vibrators:

#1 At a certain age, orgasms can be harder to achieve, vibrators are amazing at bridging the gap

In a study of nearly 14,000 women , 18% to 41% of women aged 40 to 80 had difficulty reaching orgasm. 

That’s no small problem. But, vibrators can help.

In a small 2016 study, 66% of female participants who had difficulty with sexual arousal and climax reported a higher likelihood of orgasms when using a vibrator. 

#2 Regular vibrator use has been shown to increase natural vaginal lubrication and the likelihood of orgasm

Many women begin shying away from sex later in life. This may be due to unpleasant menopause symptoms such as vaginal dryness, lack of arousal, or lack of sensation. 

In the previously mentioned 2016 study, two-thirds of post-menopausal reported an increase in natural vaginal lubrication, arousal, and increase in genital sensation after regularly using a vibrator for 3 months. This is likely due to the increase in blood flow aided by vibrator use. 

Vibrators and clitoral stimulators are now being seen as a therapeutic tool for post-menopausal women. 

Vibrators aren’t just sex toys, they are sexual wellness tools! 

The #1 BEST vibrator for older women

Suction toys are ideal for those who want to increase arousal. They increase clitoral blood flow, and man, do they feel incredible. 

Our #1 recommended vibrator for older women is Aura, the clit sucker and vibrating dildo. This 3-in-1 pleasure powerhouse can offer anything you’d want out of a vibrator. It’s so versatile, adaptable and flexible. 

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It can be used as a suction toy, internal dildo, g-spot vibrator, clit stimulator, or dual stimulator (it can work in two areas at once).

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Our recommended vibrating dildo for older women

Using toys internally can be really great for older women as it’s an effective way of increasing vaginal blood flow and waking up the vaginal tissue. (Remember to use an ample amount of water-based lube when using a silicone dildo.)

Our recommended internal vibrator for older women is Indie, our dual personal massager. This double-ended vibrator is great for both internal and clitoral stimulation. 

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The broad tip massager end is perfect for building up arousal while the other end is a great vulva massager or vibrating dildo. Again, excellent versatility and a bit more bang for your buck. 

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Think of sex toys as sexual wellness tools

Treadmills help keep your body in shape, right? Well, a vibrator may help keep sexual function "in shape" too.

Vibes are more than just sex toys, they are sexual wellness tools you can use to increase your vitality, libido, and pleasure. Similar to an exercise routine, you’ve got to invest time and patience into your sexual wellness ritual to reap the benefits. 

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