On the hunt for the best vibrator for older women? Let’s chat!
Here's what you actually need to know right off the bat:
The best vibrators for older women come down to three things: strong motors, rechargeable batteries, and sleek ergonomic design. My top recommendations? Aura for its incredible versatility, and Bewitch'd for straight-up power.
Keep reading and I'll explain exactly why these features matter for your body at this stage of life.
I truly love recommending vibrators for older women. Because it's not just about sex and pleasure --it's about sexual wellbeing.
I was at a wedding recently and was chatting with a few women about vibrators. (Yes, I know, vibrator chat at a reception, my goodness.) I shared with some stunning older women that I'm the founder of a sexual wellness company. One woman replied, “Oh that’s amazing, but is it for older women like us?” and motioned to the rest of the table of ladies on their 50s, 60s and 70s. I bit my tongue and responded in a reassuring way.
I spared them an overzealous lecture on how 1. pleasure is for EVERYONE and 2. a sexual wellness routine at their age would be nothing short of revolutionary.
I wanted to ask —well, do you still desire pleasure? Do you still want to feel sexy in your body? Do you want to naturally increase libido, arousal, genital sensitivity and vaginal lubrication? Then, yes, it’s for you.
We get to be sexual beings however long we get the great pleasure of living.
Sexual pleasure just might require extra effort as you get older. This is why a sexual wellness routine is so necessary.
Let's talk about the very best vibrators for older women and the benefits you may enjoy when you use one.
Here's what you need to know about enjoying the finest vibrators for older women
When you’re a little older, there are some things you should consider when buying a vibrator.
#1 Always use a lubricant
It's a good idea for anyone to use a personal lubricant while getting frisky. But as we age, lubricants become more and more necessary.
Sexual intercourse can become painful for many post-menopausal women. This is often due to a natural decrease in vaginal lubrication. Vaginal dryness can cause vaginal tissue to become less elastic, and prone to tearing or bleeding during sex.
So no matter if you’re using a vibrator on your own, or getting intimate with a partner, lubricant is a fantastic idea.
#2 Opt for strong, well-designed vibrators
When selecting vibrators for mature women, quality matters. There are vibrators and then there are viiiiiibrators. Not all vibes are created equal.
The internal motor and battery will determine the type of vibrations you can enjoy. For older women, opt for stronger vibrators that offer a bit of oomph.
A kitschy lipstick bullet vibe that requires a little AA battery is not going to bring you to your knees. But, a powerhouse, dual-motored clit sucker might.
#3 Try clit suckers for maximum clit stimulation
Clit stimulation is everything ––81.6% of women can't orgasm from intercourse alone, they require clit stimulation.
Vibrators are excellent clit stimulators.
In recent years a new type of clit stimulator has emerged: the clit sucker. The name is a little intimidating but clit suckers don’t exactly ‘suck’.
After the opening is nestled around the clit, these suction vibrators use sonic air pulsations to envelop the entire clit with a "flutter-type" vibration. Instead of direct clit tip stimulation, the air around the entire clit does the work.
Clit suckers are now the gold standard and often considered the best vibrator for mature women seeking powerful clitoral stimulation.
Many women report deep, intense orgasms in just minutes while using a clit sucker.
#4 Try flexible vibrators that help with dexterity
Some vibrators are tiny. So tiny that holding them in the right place might be difficult for some folks, especially if your hands are weaker or have arthritis. Try opting for vibrators that are either flexible or come with a long handle. This is especially helpful if your vibe sessions are lengthy.
While laying down, you could also work around this by shimming a pillow up toward your vulva and placing the vibrator between you and the pillow.
Our 3-in-1 air pulser has a clit sucker on one end and a flexible dildo on the other. When it's not being inserted for dual stimulation, the dildo end can be used as a long handle that can curve up and around your pelvis.
You could even go hands-free!
#5 Forget about batteries, go for rechargeable
Cordless vibrators used to all be powered by clunky, and expensive batteries. Now, lots of vibrators are powered by rechargeable lithium batteries. Just plug it in to recharge.
Keeping your vibrator charged is also a great way to extend the life of your vibrator and keep it at maximum strength.
Benefits of using a vibrator in your 50s and beyond
It’s no secret that sexual pleasure can be complicated by aging. Whether that be because of stress, hormonal shifts, health conditions, or medications —many, many women deal with it.
It’s been found that regularly using vibrators can decrease symptoms of menopause. That's why I truly love recommending vibrators to older women –because the best vibrator for women over 60 can make a real difference in sexual wellbeing.
Here are a few documented benefits of older women using vibrators:
#1 At a certain age, orgasms can be harder to achieve, vibrators are amazing at bridging the gap
In a study of nearly 14,000 women , 18% to 41% of women aged 40 to 80 had difficulty reaching orgasm.
That’s no small problem. But, vibrators can help.
In a small 2016 study, 66% of female participants who had difficulty with sexual arousal and climax reported a higher likelihood of orgasms when using a vibrator.
#2 Regular vibrator use has been shown to increase natural vaginal lubrication and the likelihood of orgasm
Many women begin shying away from sex later in life. This may be due to unpleasant menopause symptoms such as vaginal dryness, lack of arousal, or lack of sensation.
In the previously mentioned 2016 study, two-thirds of post-menopausal reported an increase in natural vaginal lubrication, arousal, and increase in genital sensation after regularly using a vibrator for 3 months. This is likely due to the increase in blood flow aided by vibrator use.
Vibrators and clitoral stimulators are now being seen as a therapeutic tool for post-menopausal women.
Vibrators aren’t just sex toys, they are sexual wellness tools!
Read More: 11 Reasons Why Masturbation is Great for Menopause
What a great vibrator for older women can do for you
✓ May increase natural lubrication by boosting blood flow to the vulva and vagina
✓ Can improve arousal and sensitivity over time with regular use
✓ May make orgasms easier to achieve—in some cases, significantly easier
✓ Could reduce menopause symptoms like vaginal dryness and discomfort
✓ Supports overall sexual wellness and helps you stay connected to pleasure in your body
✓ Totally safe to use and recommended by many healthcare providers
Our #1 Most Recommended Vibrator for Older Women
Suction toys are ideal for those who want to increase arousal. They increase clitoral blood flow, and man, do they feel incredible.
Our #1 recommended vibrator for older women is Aura, the clit sucker and vibrating dildo. This 3-in-1 pleasure powerhouse can offer anything you’d want out of a vibrator. It’s so versatile, adaptable and flexible.
It can be used as a suction toy, internal dildo, g-spot vibrator, clit stimulator, or dual stimulator (it can work in two areas at once).
To learn what a clit sucker may feel like, click here.
What Real Women Are Saying About Aura
Shelley, 55 ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
"I was able to reach a climax that was so intense. It was completely earth shattering for me. I have never been there before, and this toy was the reason."
As a single woman navigating menopause, Shelley discovered the Aura delivered exactly what her changing body needed. She particularly loved the dual g-spot and clitoral stimulation, flexible design, and how easy the controls are to use in the moment.
Her favorite features:
- Rechargeable (no hunting for batteries)
- Adjustable flexibility for the perfect fit
- Simple button controls
- Discreet travel case included
"The older I get, the more I realize that sexual pleasure and orgasm is just so vital in keeping me young and vibrant and joyful," Shelley shares. "This little beauty is gonna be in my bedside table, always—and traveling with me."
Wondering how to use Aura? Read our vibe guide.
A VERY close second: Powerful wand vibrators for older women
Coming in a tight second as the best vibrator for senior women: Bewitch'd, the classic wand vibrator.
Bewitch'd has the classic shape and motor strength you know and love, now with modern pleasure product luxuries. The cordless, rechargeable, waterproof and light weight design is perfect for any one who desires powerful clitoral stimulation.
This vibrator offers 3 intensities and 10 pulse patterns, utilizing our most powerful motor yet.
Some ladies opt for the classic Bewitch'd, some prefer the powerful suction feature of Aura, and many, opt for both.
These two pleasure products are crowd pleasers. And, at BerryLemon, they are exceptionally popular among older ladies.
What to avoid when shopping for vibrators
Not all vibrators are created equal. Here's what I'd steer clear of, especially for older women:
❌ Weak, battery-powered toys Those little bullet vibes that take AA or AAA batteries? They're not going to cut it. The motor is too weak, and you'll spend more on batteries than the toy cost in the first place. Go rechargeable, always.
❌ Overly complicated settings Some vibrators have 47 different patterns and require a PhD to operate. If you need to consult a manual mid-session, it's not the vibe for you. Look for intuitive, easy-to-use controls.
❌ Tiny toys with no grip If you have any issues with dexterity, arthritis, or hand strength, avoid tiny vibrators that are hard to hold onto. Look for longer handles, ergonomic shapes, or flexible designs like Aura.
❌ Non-body-safe materials This is huge. Avoid anything made with phthalates, jelly rubber, or mystery materials. Stick with body-safe silicone, ABS plastic, or medical-grade materials. Your vagina deserves better than questionable chemicals.
❌ Products with terrible reviews or no reviews If a vibrator has 2 stars and a bunch of complaints about breaking after one use, believe those reviews. Stick with reputable brands that stand behind their products.
❌ "As seen on TikTok" impulse buys Just because something went viral doesn't mean it's high quality. Do your research. Read reviews. Make sure it's actually designed for sexual wellness, not just for shock value.
Think of sex toys as sexual wellness tools
Treadmills help keep your body in shape, right? Well, a vibrator may help keep sexual function "in shape" too.
Vibes are more than just sex toys, they are sexual wellness tools you can use to increase your vitality, libido, and pleasure. Similar to an exercise routine, you’ve got to invest time and patience into your sexual wellness ritual to reap the benefits.
Your most common questions about vibrators, answered
Is it safe to use a vibrator during menopause or post-menopause?
Absolutely. In fact, vibrators are increasingly being recommended by healthcare providers as a therapeutic tool for managing menopause symptoms. They increase blood flow to the vulva and vagina, which can help with natural lubrication, sensitivity, and arousal. Just remember to always use a water-based lubricant to keep things comfortable.
How do I clean my vibrator?
It's simple. After each use, wash your vibrator with warm water and mild, unscented soap. Pat it dry with a clean towel. If your vibrator is waterproof (like Aura and Bewitch'd), you can rinse it directly under running water. Store it in a cool, dry place, ideally in its storage pouch or case.
What if I don't orgasm the first time I use it?
That's totally normal, and honestly, pretty common. Think of it like learning to ride a bike, it takes a little practice. Start on a lower setting, experiment with different speeds and angles, and give yourself permission to just explore without any pressure. Some women find they need a few sessions to figure out what feels best. Be patient with yourself.
I'm worried my partner will feel threatened or replaced. Should I still get one?
This is such a valid concern. Here's the thing: a vibrator isn't a replacement for intimacy with a partner, it's a tool for your sexual wellness. Many couples actually find that incorporating vibrators into partnered play adds excitement and variety. If you're nervous about bringing it up, you might start by sharing some of the health benefits we've talked about here. Most partners, when they understand the wellness aspect, are supportive. And if they're not? Well, that's a different conversation about respecting your needs.
Will I become "dependent" on a vibrator?
No. This is a myth. You won't become dependent on a vibrator any more than you'd become dependent on a yoga mat. Your body doesn't "forget" how to orgasm without one. What can happen is that you become accustomed to a certain type of stimulation—but that's not dependency, that's just preference. And preferences can always change.
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