How to Use Sex Toys With a Partner: 10 Tips + Toys

Gone are the days when sex toys lurked in the shadows – now, they’re the stunning supporting characters in our stories of modern love and pleasure.

The benefits of using sex toys with your partner are backed by studies. A 2010 study revealed that couples who use sex toys with their partners show higher sexual satisfaction rates versus couples who don’t use sex toys together.

Keep reading if you're interested in vibing with your boo and learning how to use a couples vibrator like a pro.

Ok, Why Use a Vibrator with A Partner?

Vibrators, often celebrated for their solo capabilities, hold an untapped potential to significantly enhance partnered play. Vibrators, far from being mere accessories, are transformative tools for couples seeking to enrich their shared experiences.

Here's why venturing into this territory with your partner can elevate both your pleasure and your bond:

Encourages Open Communication
Discussing the introduction of a vibrator requires open and honest communication, setting a precedent for future conversations about desires, boundaries, and sexual health. This kind of dialogue can strengthen your emotional connection and ensure that both partners feel heard and respected.

Research indicates that nearly half (49%) of couples who incorporate vibrators into their intimacy frequently engage in open communication. In comparison, among couples who do not use vibrators together, only 29% report having the same degree of transparent dialogue.

Eases Performance Pressure
For those facing performance anxiety, vibrators can be a game-changer. They redistribute the focus from performance to mutual pleasure and PLAY! Tools like a cock ring enhance erections and response, while playing with a clitoral stimulator ease the stress of achieving orgasm together, making intimate moments more about shared pleasure and less about effort.

Syncing Satisfaction
Vibrators can help synchronize partners' levels of arousal and timing of orgasms, making for a more unified and satisfying sexual experience. They can be particularly helpful in situations where one partner takes longer to reach climax, ensuring that both partners find their peak together.

Novelty Keeps Things Fresh
Incorporating a vibrator can add a spark of novelty to your sex life. Just like trying a new restaurant or traveling to a new place can rejuvenate your relationship, exploring new toys together can bring a sense of adventure and playfulness to your intimate moments.

Enhanced Intimacy
Beyond the physical pleasure, the act of sharing and experiencing vulnerability together can deepen your emotional intimacy. The trust involved in trying something new together translates to a stronger bond and a more profound connection.

What Kind of Sex Toys Are Good for Couples?

When it comes to spicing up the bedroom scene, the variety of sex toys available for couples can be both exciting and overwhelming. Whether you're looking to deepen your connection, explore new sensations, or simply add a fun element to your intimate moments, there's a toy out there that can meet your needs.

Here's a breakdown of some popular options that cater to shared pleasure:

Vibrators:

Any toy can become a couple's adventure with a bit of creativity. However, there are some specifically crafted for couples. These are engineered with the shared experience at heart, elevating both partners' pleasure during their intimate moments.

Vibrating Cock Rings:

A simple yet effective tool for couples, vibrating Cock rings are worn around the base of the penis or on the fingers. They enhance erections by restricting blood flow and provide clitoral stimulation during penetration, offering pleasure for both partners.

Remote-Controlled Vibrators:

Perfect for adding an element of surprise and control, remote-controlled vibrators can be operated from a distance, making them ideal for foreplay or daring public play. They allow one partner to control the intensity and pattern of vibrations, enhancing the excitement for both.

Dual-Stimulation Vibrators:

These vibrators are designed to target multiple erogenous zones at once, such as the clitoris and G-spot, providing intense pleasure. Their versatility makes them excellent for solo play or as a thrilling addition to couple's play.

Dildos, Strap-Ons & Strapless Strap-Ons:

For couples interested in exploring penetration in new ways, dildos and strap-ons offer versatility and a change of roles. Available in various sizes and shapes, they can enhance pleasure for both partners, regardless of gender. Strapless strap-ons are fabulous for pegging and WLW mutual pleasure penetration.

Bondage Gear:

For those looking to explore the realms of BDSM, bondage gear like cuffs, blindfolds, and ropes can introduce an exciting power dynamic into the bedroom. These toys encourage trust and communication, deepening the bond between partners.

Sensation Tools:

Toys designed to stimulate the senses, such as feather ticklers, massage candles, or warming lubricants, can elevate foreplay and intimacy. They're great for couples wanting to explore sensual and erotic play.

Choosing the right toy depends on the preferences, comfort level, and desires of both partners. The key is open communication about what each person hopes to achieve through the use of sex toys. By exploring together, couples can find the toys that best enhance their intimacy and pleasure.

10 Tips on How to Use Couples Vibrators

Couples vibrators are a thrilling addition to any duo's intimate repertoire, promising to amplify pleasure and connection. Step zero to using a vibrator with a partner is remembering you’re here to feel good, have fun, and play. Sex is a playground for adults after all right?

Ok let's get into it.

Here are essential tips to make the most out of your couples vibrator experience:

1. Communication Is Key:

Before introducing a vibrator, discuss it with your partner. Share expectations, establish boundaries, and express any concerns. This open dialogue ensures both are on the same page and comfortable with the adventure ahead. If everyone is on board you might consider shopping for your sex toys together –how sexy!

2. Start Slow:

Ok now you have a tantalizing couples vibe – start slow. Especially if this is new territory, begin with a gentle approach. Familiarize yourselves with the vibrator's settings and features outside of the bedroom first. This builds anticipation and comfort, making the actual experience more enjoyable and less daunting. You can approach it with a light heart, have fun, and be playful.

3. Explore Together:

Use the vibrator to explore each other's bodies, not just the erogenous zones. Discovering new areas that respond well to vibration can be both exciting and insightful, enhancing your understanding of each other's pleasure points. Don’t focus on reaching orgasm. Just focus on feeling good together.

Try synchronizing your breath, your breath is an arousal tool after all.

READ MORE: Orgasmic Breathwork

4. Experiment with Positions:

Some couples vibrators are designed to be worn during intercourse, while others may be more versatile. Experiment with different positions to find what feels best for both of you, considering that some configurations may offer more intense stimulation than others.

5. Use Plenty of Lubricant:

A good quality lubricant can enhance the sensation of the vibrator and make the experience more comfortable, especially for toys that are inserted. Choose a lube that's compatible with your toy's material for a smooth experience. (Water-based with silicone sex toys, please!)

6. Go Remote / Take Turns With Control:

Power play can be hot. If your vibrator comes with a remote control or app, take turns managing the settings. This can add an element of surprise and excitement, allowing one partner to pleasure the other with unexpected changes in intensity or pattern.

7. Use Sex Toys Before Penetration:

Some will say the main event is penetration, and adding sex toys is foreplay – but let's be real, clitorial stimulation is the main event for women. Using sex toys before penetration can make that stimulation feel SO much more intense. So, use toys before penetrative sex if you’re having it. Use the vibrator to build arousal and anticipation. This can make the experience more intense and satisfying for both partners.

8. Focus on Feeling Good, Not the Destination:

While orgasms are fantastic, they shouldn't be the sole focus. The more we try to have an orgasm, the harder it seems to be. So RELAX and BREATHE. Enjoy the sensations and the shared experience. Sometimes, the most memorable moments come from the playful exploration, not just the climax.

9. Clean Sex Toys After Every Use:

For hygiene and longevity of your toy, clean it according to the manufacturer's instructions after each use. This ensures it's safe and ready for your next adventure together.

10. Reflect and Adjust:

After your experience, share your thoughts and feelings about it. Discuss what you liked, what you didn't, and how you might adjust your approach in the future. This reflection can deepen your connection and improve future experiences.

By following these tips, couples can navigate the use of vibrators with confidence, enhancing their intimacy and exploring new dimensions of pleasure together.

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