Ahh, pegging for beginners. A favorite topic of ours.
Over the years, pegging has made its way into the zeitgeist and into the bedrooms of many. When it comes to pegging, there's often an air of mystery and taboo -- which may be part of the allure.
Back in 2014 Broad City famously aired a few episodes about pegging -- and thus bloomed a massive interest. (Abby pegged her long time crush!) But exactly is pegging? How do you approach it?
Do you want to get pegged? Do you want to peg? Let's explore it!
In this article we'll cover pegging for beginners, tips, tricks and toys.
What is pegging?
Pegging is a sexual practice that has gained popularity in recent years, particularly among couples who enjoy exploring their sexuality and trying new things in the bedroom.
Pegging usually involves a straight couple (or hey, a throuple), where a vulva owner uses a sex toy to anally penetrate their partner.
A little bit of butt play and exciting role reversal.
So essentially, pegging involves a woman using a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner anally. This might sound intimidating at first, but with the right preparation and communication, pegging can be a thrilling and enjoyable experience for both partners.
For a male partner, pegging can be very physically enjoyable as it can stimulate the prostate. (We write about prostate pleasure too, if you're into that.) The role reversal can also be very mentally arousing for the couple.
Pegging & Power
One writer posits, “pegging is a powerful activity for many who find it appealing, the appeal of which for some is the reversing of the sexual roles, for others, it’s the anatomical stimulation, and for still many others, including the women involved, it is a way to become deeply intimate with their partners and share in something socially taboo and seemingly downright naughty.”
One appeal of pegging is the shift in the power dynamic between partners. The same writer from above says “Power dynamics definitely play a role in the joys people find in pegging… For many women, it’s the chance to be dominant or feel empowered in a way that being the “top” couldn’t do alone, by giving her the opportunity to actually insert a representative extension of herself into someone else, someone who is often her partner on a very deep, intimate level.”
This exchange of power fosters intimacy and empathy between partners – those who have never been penetrated may feel very vulnerable, so trust in their partner is crucial.
6 Tips: Pegging for Beginners
If you're a ‘pegging beginner,’ here are some tips to get you started:
#1 Talk openly with your partner:
Before you even think about trying pegging, it's important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your desires, boundaries, and expectations. Pegging requires a lot of trust and communication, so make sure you're both on the same page before you begin.
#2 Start small:
If you're new to anal play, it's important to start small and work your way up. Anal training is highly recommended before you take any steps toward penetration with a toy (other than a small butt plug). Begin with some light anal stimulation using fingers, a small butt plug, or a prostate massager to help your partner relax and get comfortable with the sensations.
#3 Choose the right equipment:
When it comes to choosing a strap-on dildo, there are a few things to consider. First, make sure it's the right size and shape for your partner's body. A smaller dildo may be easier for beginners to manage, while a larger one may provide more intense sensations. Additionally, make sure the harness fits properly and is comfortable for both you and your partner.
For double the stimulation, check out Sage the strapless strap-on dildo.
When a vulva owner uses a strapless strap on like Sage, she gets to enjoy vaginal stimulation while she pegs you. Win-win baby.
#4 The more lube the better:
Anal play requires a lot of lubrication to ensure a smooth and comfortable experience. Choose a lubricant with a thicker consistency (to protect the anal tissues) and use plenty of it to help the dildo slide in smoothly. Note: silicone and oil-based lubricants should not be used for silicone toys, while water-based lubricant is safe on all toy materials.
#5 Take it slow:
Pegging requires a lot of patience and care. Take your time, go slow, and communicate with your partner throughout the experience. Encourage your partner to relax and breathe deeply to help them feel more comfortable and to prevent any discomfort or pain.
#6 Clean up afterward:
After you're finished, make sure to clean your equipment thoroughly to prevent the spread of bacteria or infection. Use soap and water or a specialized toy cleaner to ensure everything is clean and ready for the next time. Pegging can be a fun and exciting way to explore your sexuality and add some spice to your relationship. Just remember to take your time, communicate openly, and prioritize your partner's comfort and safety. With the right preparation and a willingness to try something new, pegging can be an incredibly rewarding experience for both partners.
