By: Gillian (Gigi) Singer, MPH, American Board Certified Sexologist & Sexuality Educator
Some things are timeless – for example, sex! The seven sex positions for seniors in the list below will help keep you on your toes (literally and hypothetically).
In the National Poll on Healthy Aging, more than three-quarters of adults between the ages of sixty-five and eighty agree that “sex is an important part of a romantic relationship at any age.”
While this is true, it’s no secret that bodies and abilities change as we age and evolve, which means approaching sex in novel and inventive ways. Though it can feel frustrating to be continually adapting, try and reframe adaptations as opportunities to try something new and shake things up – who knows, you might just discover your new favorite position from our list of favorite sex positions for seniors.
Behold, the top seven sex positions for seniors!
Top 7 Sex Positions For Seniors
Without further ado, here are six sex positions for seniors that will keep your sex life satisfying (and keep you comfortable).
#1 Supported Missionary
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Good for: intercourse, outercourse, grinding, anal
Relieves: hip pain or tightness, limited hip mobility, back pain, knee pain
Props: a normal pillow or a wedge cushion
Penetration:
Using a pillow under the hips of the person laying on their back “helps lift the hips and pelvis at a more convenient angle for penetration.” The vaginal canal will be straighter, providing easier access to all of the most internal pleasure points.
Clitoral stimulation:
The clitoris is in a position to be stimulated by grinding up against a partner’s pelvis or you can easily access the clit with BerryLemon’s cordless Bewitch'd Vibrating Wand Massager. If both partners are female or have vulvas, both can grind on the Bewitch'd Wand in this position for universal bliss while feeling the pressure of their partners’ movements.
Modifications:
- For deeper penetration, open your knees wide
#2 Standing Missionary AKA Table Top
Image source: Emily Schiff-Slater
Good for: intercourse, outercourse, anal
Relieves: hip pain or tightness, limited hip mobility, back pain, knee pain
Props: a normal pillow or a wedge cushion (optional)
Pro tips:
- The receiver should scooch their hips to the very edge of the bed to make it easier for the partner that is standing.
- Standing missionary, especially when the knees are pulled toward the chest is great for rocking motions instead of thrusting movements which may be more comfortable for some people.
Penetration:
While placing a pillow/wedge under the hips of the receiver has the same benefits as in Supported Missionary, keep in mind that it will adjust the height at which the vagina or anus is positioned. You can try removing the pillow, adding more pillows, etc.
Clitoral Stimulation:
Once again, the clitoris is in a position to be stimulated by grinding up against a partner’s pelvis or you can easily stimulate the clit with a cordless Vibrating Wand Massager or a Clit Sucker & Vibrating Dildo – this position provides great access to the clitoris!
Modifications:
- For deeper penetration, open your knees wide
- For more control over the depth of penetration, put your feet on the chest of the standing person so that you can guide them on how deep they should go
#3 Supported Prone
Image source & artist: Sofie Birkin
Good for: intercourse, outercourse, grinding, anal
Relieves: pain during deep penetration, limited hip mobility, back pain, knee pain, neck pain/tension
Props: a normal pillow or a wedge cushion
Pro tips:
- Massage oil or lubricant all over the body allows for bodies to slide over one another more easily… make a fun mess!
- Never forget about outercourse as an option
- The person on the bottom should keep their legs zipped together
Penetration:
This position may require a slightly longer penis/toy for penetration depending on how your bodies fit together. On the flip side, this can be a great way to control the depth of penetration for anyone who experiences pain during penetration.
Clitoral Stimulation:
Grind against the pillow beneath you or add a Clit Sucker into the mix. Outercourse stimulates the clit as well!
In partnerships where both people are female or have vulvas, this position is the perfect opportunity for the person on top to grind their clit and vulva against the buttocks of the person below.
#4 Supported Doggy
Image source & artist: Sofie Birkin
Good for: intercourse, anal
Relieves: limited hip mobility, back pain, knee pain, neck pain/tension,
Props: a normal pillow or a wedge cushion under the knees
Pro tips:
- Control the depth of penetration by opening/closing your legs more/less
Penetration:
This position may require a slightly longer penis/toy for penetration depending on how your bodies fit together. On the flip side, this can be a great way to control the depth of penetration for anyone who experiences pain during penetration.
Clitoral Stimulation:
Grind against the pillow beneath you or add a fun clit toy.
Modifications:
- Try squeezing (or flexing) leg, buttock, and pelvic floor muscles in this position if this is comfortable for you. You may find that you are able to achieve what is called a ‘tension orgasm.’ You can try squeezing/flexing in different patterns to see what feels good.
#5 Scissoring
Image source & artist: Sofie Birkin
Scissoring is usually associated with lesbian sex, or sex between partners that both have vulvas, however, the position is also advantageous in non-lesbian partnerships.
Good for: intercourse, outercourse, grinding
Relieves: knee pain, low back pain
Props: as many pillows as you want
Pro tips:
- Use pillows behind the lower back and beneath your head for further support and comfort
Penetration:
This position brings bodies together like pieces of a puzzle and it provides an opportunity for deep penetration (specifically to hit the G-spot).
Clitoral Stimulation:
Grind against your partner's leg or the top person can grab Aura, the 3-in-1 Clit Sucker & Vibrating Dildo to stimulate externally.
Modifications:
- Both people can try lying face up or face down
- For penetration that is more shallow, the penis-owner or dildo-user should put their body more at an angle rather than straight together
#6 Forking
Image source: Emily Schiff-Slater
Good for: intercourse, outercourse, grinding, anal
Relieves: knee pain, low back pain, neck pain, limited hip mobility
Props: as many pillows as you want
Pro tips:
- Use pillows behind the lower back and beneath your head for further support and comfort
Penetration:
The best part of this position is that it heavily relies on rocking back and forth rather than thrusting – this does wonders for both partners in relieving pain that thrusting creates. One partner can also use the Aura Clit Sucker & Vibrating Dildo to penetrate by holding the toy for the other partner.
Clitoral Stimulation:
Use a Clit Sucker a Vibrating Wand Massager.
#7 Chair Cowgirl
Image source: My Sex Toy Guide
Good for: intercourse, grinding
Relieves: knee pain, low back pain, neck pain, limited hip mobility
Props: as many pillows as you want
Pro tips:
- Use pillows behind the lower back and beneath your head for further support and comfort
- Sync your breathing with your partner’s for a tantric experience
Penetration:
The best part of this position is that it heavily relies on rocking back and forth rather than thrusting – this does wonders for both partners in relieving the pain that thrusting creates.
Clitoral Stimulation:
Use BerryLemon’s Bewitch'd Vibrating Wand Massager. Using toys is easier if the top person is facing away from the bottom person.
Modifications:
- Bottom partner can sit on an actual chair/sofa or sit on a bed
- If sitting on a bed, you can put your legs straight out or sit in ‘criss-cross-applesauce’
- Top partner can face the bottom partner or face away from them
Making Your Own Modifications
These recommendations may or may not work for you, but if you find that parts of each work and altogether add up to some amazing senior sex, that’s perfect.
Modifying everything to fit your needs is what experimentation is all about.
Sex as a senior doesn’t have to be boring… like a fine wine, sex just gets better with age! Plus, if you’re looking to add something new, borrowed, or blue, check out BerryLemon’s recommended sex toys for seniors, like the aforementioned Aura Clit Sucker & Vibrating Dildo and Bewitch'd Vibrating Wand Massager.
