So, you want some pointers on how to use a vibrator for the first time? We’ve got your back. 

If you’re exploring how to use a vibrator, here’s the first thing you should know: there is no right or wrong way to use a vibrator. 

Self-pleasure is all about what feels good to you

While there certainly is no rule book on how to use a vibrator, there are some universal tips that might help you get the most out of a new vibe. 

If you want some pointers on how best to use a vibrator for the first time, keep on scrolling. 

#1 Consider what you know you like

When exploring how to use a vibrator (or deciding which vibrator to buy) -- first consider what you know you like. What has historically been your favorite type of stimulation? Whatever that may be, that is the best place to start.

Most vulva owners will find the most pleasure in a combination of direct clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration. Some sex toys are designed for both internal and external use but some just focus on one area.

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Knowing what you like can help you choose the right vibrator and determine how you use that vibrator for maximum self-pleasure. 

#2 Wash your new vibrator

If your vibrator is straight out of the package, a good rule of thumb is to give it a little wash with gentle soap and lukewarm water. 

While there is nothing “dirty” about a new vibe, it is straight out of the factory. So, give it a bubble bath before you use it for the first time. 

It’s also a good idea to wash your vibe after every use. Vibrators are very intimate products, so keeping them sanitary is a must. 

#3 Get familiar with your new vibe

There are a lot of different types of vibrators, and they’re all a little different. So to get the most out of it, it’s best to get friendly with your new vibrator. 

Give it a full charge, explore what each button does, and learn how to coast through vibration settings.

Try turning it on and simply feel what it’s like in your hand, or on your neck. If it’s an air pulse, sucking vibrator, explore what the air pulsations feel like on your fingertip, cheek, or tongue. Explore all strength settings. Get acquainted with your new beau. 

#4 Get in the mood

Okay, so now we’re getting to the good stuff. 

Getting yourself in the mood before using any pleasure toys is key. If you jump straight into using a vibrator without being at all turned on, it might not feel all that great. 

However, when you’re aroused, blood circulation to the genitals increases most stimulation south of your hips can be pretty dang enjoyable.  

(Plus, the more arousal build-up you have, the more pleasurable the climax.)

So, when exploring how to use a vibrator -- setting the mood and getting aroused is essential

Here are a few ways to get yourself in the mood:

  • Stimulate all of your senses
  • Get out of your head, get into your body, and linger -- take note of all 5 senses. Lower the lights, light a candle for ambiance, and scent. Try gently massaging your body with massage oil. Put on music that sets the mood. Use your 5 senses to get fully grounded into your body. 

  • Do something that makes you feel sexy
  • Take a bath, put on your fancy perfume, dance around to Megan Thee Stallion -- do anything that makes you feel like the sexiest person in the room.

  • Bust out the erotica 
  • For all of the erotica fans out there, bust out your faves. Getting in the mood with erotica is very common. 76% of cis men opt for visual pornography, while 53% of cis women enjoy reading erotic fiction. For a lot of us, we enjoy a variety of both. 

    Get a little hot and bothered first -- and then introduce your vibrator. 

    #5 Lube up, babe 

    Even if you aren’t using a penetrative toy, it’s still a good idea to get things lubricated, slippy, and slidey. 

    This can lower any potential friction and enhance any stimulation. With a silicone vibrator, it’s best to opt for a water-based lubricant. 

    #6 Be a tease

    When you’re learning how to use a vibrator, teasing yourself can go a long way. 

    Turn your vibrator onto the lowest setting, and use it anywhere but the clitoris --use it on your leg, around the vulva, nipples, or vaginal opening. 

    This can be extremely arousing, yet not intense enough to climax. Tease your way around until you’re ready for direct stimulation. 

    Teasing is great for those who are new to toys and for those who want to make the fun last.

    #7 Too strong at first? Try the barrier method

    If you’re new to vibrators, (or just sensitive) it may feel that yours is coming on a little too strong at first. 

    If that’s the case, try putting a barrier between yourself and your vibrator. This will offer indirect stimulation and can take the intensity levels down a notch. Try using a vibrator over top panties, or over a bit of fabric. 

    This is also a good technique for teasing as it dulls the vibration and the vibration becomes more indirect. 

    #8 You gotta relax

    While pleasure is stimulated physically, all the magic happens in your brain. So if you’re stressed, worried, or upset -- it may be hard to let yourself relax enough to experience pleasure. 

    When you’re learning how to use a vibrator, you’ll find relaxing your muscles is really helpful. Take some deep breaths, get into the moment, and try not to tense up your body. (Tension can happen naturally as your orgasm builds, but try staying relaxed during the beginning.) 

    #9 Explore different techniques 

    Vibrators aren’t one-trick ponies -- they can perform in all kinds of ways if you want them to. As you get used to how to use a vibrator,  investigate what feels good. Try out different angles, teasing, grinding, edging, nipple play, and maybe even couples vibrator fun. 

    Using a vibrating dildo? Learn how to use it like a pro here. 

    Vibrators can be used anywhere but they are most effective when stimulating our erroneous zones. Try stimulating breasts, lips, butt, back, or nape of the neck with your vibrator.

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    Remember to prioritize your pleasure 

    Your pleasure, whether enjoyed solo or partnered, is essential to your overall wellbeing. Remember, how you use a vibrator is a totally personal choice and a unique experience. 

    Now, go have some fun and explore your sensuality and sexuality -- do what feels good, bestie.