Bringing a third party into the bedroom isn't everyone's cup of tea. But what if I told you, you and your partner can benefit from this third party? No, guys, I'm not talking about threesomes; I'm talking about vibrators.
Today, I'm sharing with you how to use a vibrator during sex so that you can make your spicy time sizzle.
Did you know that 81.6% of people with vaginas don't orgasm from sex alone? Yup, this means that they need additional stimulation. This is where vibrators come into play.
Vibrators can make orgasms easier to achieve and expand your pleasure horizons.
If you are a beginner or just want to learn other ways of using a vibrator during sex, this article is for you.
So let's look at how you can get your buzz on.
#1 First, Get Your Minds Hot and Bothered
Talking with your partner about how you would like to use the vibrator together will definitely turn up the heat. Creating a safe space for one another is important, as using a vibrator during sex can sound terrifying.
Discussing what both of you are comfortable with will create trust in your relationship and enhance your intimacy.
#2 Show & Tell
Before you use your new buzzy friend, take turns and show your partner how you like to be touched. This will come in handy later when you decide to use the vibrator. Ask each other questions and get to know the points of your partner's body that make them tick.
This touching game can score you a home run, or it won't. But the most important thing is learning what your person likes. Later when you add your new friend to the mix, you will be able to communicate effectively and feel more comfortable expressing what you crave physically.
#3 Give Your Partner Directions to Your Pleasure Map
Each of us has unique erogenous zones. And every person reacts differently when these erogenous zones are stimulated. Your partner may not know about these special spots, so you need to tell them or, even better, show them. If you know that kisses down your neck make things way more intense when you are close to orgasm, tell your partner that.
You can also perform what you like on your partner. Who knows? Maybe you have some pleasure spots in common.
#4 Start Slow & Take Your Time
Use the vibrator at a pace that is comfortable for you and your partner. There's no need to rush things.
Test the vibrator out against each other's bodies. You can play around and use the tip of the vibrator to circle each other's nipples. A bullet vibrator is the perfect vibe for this.
As you go in circular motions, you can up the speed, or add more pressure. This way, you and your partner can get a feel for the different modes and can see which one you like the best. You never know; maybe there's one that gets both of your hearts beating faster.
#5 Get Down Low & Go Go Go
Who said you need to take your clothes off to have some fun? You can use the vibrator externally on each other while still wearing your underwear. You can rub up or down with the vibrator or do little circular motions. Zara - The Palm Vibrator is the perfect fit for this job.
Zara fits perfectly in the palm of your hand and is perfect for foreplay, teasing, and stimulating those special areas. It is even the perfect panty vibe! Trust me, Zara's tip can definitely push you over the edge.
#6 Invite Your New Friend to Oral
Receiving oral while getting stimulated with a vibrator is an impeccable combination.
Guys, the Wake-Remote Prostate Massager will be perfect while you receive your blowjob. The best part about this massage is, it's hands-free. Give your partner total control and give them the remote to play around with while giving you mouth action. Get ready to burst!
You can also hold a vibrator against your cheek while giving someone a blow job. It will make the act so much more arousing.
Ladies, let your partner put a vibrating dildo inside you while they go down on you. You will reach orgasm land before you know it. Combining a vibrator with oral is a match made in heaven.
#7 Lubify Boo
This option is up to you and your partner. But a bit of lube might help make things more comfortable as well as pleasurable. There are different types of lube. Choose the lube that is best for you and your partner. So if you're up to it, get wet and go wild.
#8 Go For Gold, Before Penetration
For some, using a vibrator during sex is simply enhancing foreplay. It's an amazing idea to reach climax before penetrative sex begins. Go for gold with a powerful wand massager like Bewitch'd, and then dip into penetrative sex.
That first orgasm will fill the area with blood and boost lubrication making penetration feel 10x more intense (for both parties). Women are capable of multiple orgasms, so once she's had one orgasm (thanks to the buzzy friend) she'll be primed for another.
The more aroused everyone is, the more enjoyable sex is going to be. And using a vibrator during sex can be extremely arousing!
#9 Positions For Using a Vibrator During Sex
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So, you want to use a vibrator while your partner penetrates you? Sounds amazing. As long as you or your partner can hold the vibrator against the clitoris, any position will do.
However there are some positions that are easier than others -- try doggy style and spooning with a vibrator. This is great for those who want dual stimulation and the ever-delicious blended orgasm.
Read More: The Blended Orgasm: How To Achieve The Double Blended "O"
#10 A Clean & Charged Vibrator is a Happy Vibrator
Practicing cleanliness is of course very important. You and your partner should always clean your vibrator before using it during sex.
You can also use condoms if you plan on using the vibrator on more than one partner, or if you want to switch between pleasure holes.
After using your vibrator with your partner, charge it back up!
Nothing is worse than getting to the height of pleasure only for your vibrator to die on you. What a mood killer! So, remember to charge your vibrator after every use to keep it at tip-top performance.
Check-In With Your Partner After Using a Vibrator During Sex
While you should be checking-in before and during sex, aftercare is always important too! Make sure to ask your partner how they found each experience. Talk about what you both liked, what really turned you on, and what you want to try more of next time. Focusing on positives is a good way to go here. This will enhance your communication, your curiosity, and your pleasure in your relationship.
Keeping communication open will let you know if your session was a yay or a nay and whether the vibrator is there to stay.
Read More: Aftercare Tips From A Sexologist: Enhancing The Experience
Do What Feels Good
Learning how to use a vibrator during sex can really up your sex life. Whether using the vibrator with your partner during sex or solo, know it's okay to stop if it feels uncomfortable. You can always try it out again when you feel up to it. And if it's not for you, that is also perfectly fine!
Do what feels good for you, boo!
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